Jobless, Broken and Petrified from Men

Annie is well educated, beautiful and Smart. However she finds it difficult to groom, present herself well or mingle with males and also makes it difficult for her to land with a descent job even after many interviews.

Eight-year old Annie is groped by a boy next door. She tells her mother, but the mother doesn’t listen and says: go wash yourself, you’re dirty!

If she tries to say more, she gets a smack.

Annie is confused like Hell.

Little Annie is angry and sad, she feels dirty - by the hands and expression of the boy and by the words of her mother. She doesn’t understand the sexual emotion the boy brought with him. Confused, she stays in her room. She hasn’t washed herself and as mother finally comes, mother again becomes angry and reinforces the idea that she looks dirty and is naughty.

As an adult, Annie has grown up confused and petrified from males.

"No proper job, not standing up for herself. Also keeping her mouth shut in relationships, feeling unworthy, always feeling confused."

Annie must win the confidence of this hurt and broken child sitting inside her.

Till today, male attention is threatening and makes her feel dirty and guilty. Here we found that the boy had bothered her before, but she was afraid and didn’t dare to tell this. During the session Annie confronts the mother and the neighborhood boy.

Innocence and daring to be a girl are restored in Annie. Not listening and finding her dirty, and the feeling of being not important are healed during the process. Annie gets back self-confidence as a girl, and self esteem and self-respect.

Annie doesn’t feel dirty anymore. Within a month Annie walks into a corporate office as a Secretary to the CEO.

Childhood discouragement and incomprehension affect how we experience and register later problems and situations in our teens or adult life. That’s why in healing sessions we usually encounter, eventually, hidden childhood stories which are not forgotten or healed.

A state of confusion in the child complicates adult growth, and leads to more misunderstanding, incomprehension and bewilderment. A small child frequently doesn’t understand what is happening and often draws incorrect conclusions, or internalizes harsh judgments of adults. If discouragement is added to the mix, the child withdraws deep into itself, and dissociates during shocking experiences. A part of the soul no longer wants to be physically present and leaves the body. The child dies little by little.

When being neglected or abused, the chhild often thinks it must be so bad as to deserve this. Otherwise why is he or she so unloved? With sexual abuse it often ceases to understand anything at all. Or it gets mixed messages: on the one hand, it experiences intimacy and tenderness, on the other hand it experiences pain and disgust. And it is told that it must never say anything about this, or else ...!

Perhaps the most simple and the most serious trauma is feeling unwelcome and rejected at birth. This can damage the will to live and the lust for life well before life has truly begun.

Childhood pain may awaken undigested pains from past lives. We call this restimulation. This can always play a role, but we are very mindful when the response of the child goes much deeper than the situation at first sight seems to warrant.

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